I hate to say it
I hate to say it, really I do but I’m somewhat spoilt by Ubuntu IRC channels and conversations that take place in there. I know in this channels/environments conversations are for the most part all on Ubuntu topic or drift into social chatter which is nice to see.
What I don’t have to deal with is back handed remarks about women like I do in other channels. It’s still frustrating to see some men make these comments about women on IRC as you know full well they won’t make them in person or possibly around their wives, gfs, daughters etc but will in a text based environment. It can get you down as you don’t want to be seen as the nagging person in the corner going *ahem* really did you really need to say that! In some cases I’m either the only woman in the channel or one of very few of them in a channel, equally I don’t like having to ask people to refrain from making comments, it makes me out to be the bad person!
It is really nice and encouraging to see other men pull people up on their comments, it means I don’t have to be the nagging person in the channel and I honestly do think they think twice before making another comment after being pulled up by their peers!
Maybe it comes down from having ‘safe’ channels in Ubuntu that we are spoilt by having this experience, when it really should just be the ‘norm’!